A Patience Flower
An abject lesson in patience
is the flower outside our doorway
planted when the spring was young
watered, tended, nurtured
through the spring, the summer,
into the cooling of fall
bursting into a single bloom
in the middle of October
just days before frost
will come into our world
Watching over this flower,
waiting for its blooming
wondering what fruit it will bear
all summer long
- Raymond A. Foss
I chose to share this poem with you because I've been feeling very impatient lately. Things are not happening as quickly as I'd like. Does this ring a bell for you?
I recently shared this with my business coach, and she invited me to look at it from a different angle:
What if impatience was showing up as my TEACHER?
What if I let it shine a spotlight on what needs to be healed, so I could continue moving forward with my business?
I'd like to give you a glimpse of my "behind the scenes" and share what I learned. My coach gave me a head start by saying that, in her experience, a lack of patience is typically tied to a lack of trust; a lack of trust in others, and in the universe.
Gulp. That rang a bell for me.
I am a very self sufficient person. I’ve always been a fast learner. As a kid in school, the rewards were in place, and the results were immediate. Do the work, get a good grade, and earn praise from the teacher. What else could I ask for? Star Student.
I'm so used to having things come easily to me that when they don't, I get stuck in self-doubt.
I’ve never been great at struggling or asking for help. It feels like too much trouble. Just figure it out yourself. If you put your trust in others, you’ll get burned. This is a cultural norm for most women. Would you agree?
I find it ironic that running my own business originally appealed to me because I thought it was a nice way to maintain my self-sufficiency. No boss, no annoying co-workers…just me, in blissful solitude, doing my thing.
But in reality, being a business owner makes me need people more than ever. Because it’s f*ing HARD! I need advisors, supporters, colleagues, and loyal clients who believe in me. It takes a village!
I know how to provide safe spaces for others. I love bearing witness as my clients navigate the messy, unpredictable creative process. That's why I invite my clients to see themselves as artists of their businesses and lives.
As a leader, I need to safe spaces for myself, too. I need my messy meltdowns and struggles be witnessed. That's why I hired a coach, and that's why I consistently show up in creative circles. We all need a safe space to work through the muck of life, business, and art.
Yes, impatience is my teacher.
Impatience is asking me to be vulnerable.
Impatience is asking me to raise my hand and ask for help.
Impatience is asking me to take my time. I don’t have to be the first one to place my assignment in the done basket.
Impatience is asking me to be an imperfect leader; to show up even if I don't have it all figured out.
So that's a peek behind the scenes in my world. And now, I'd like to ask you:
What leadership lessons does (im)patience have to teach YOU?
Please share your comment below. I'd love to hear from you.
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Kim Evans, Author and Writing Coach
I am passionate about helping women voice their creativity. I offer personalized coaching programs designed to help soulful entrepreneurs tap their inner wisdom and write the stories they need to tell.